Saturday, November 22, 2008
Ryan Update
Well, as many of you know Ryan has been in the hospital since friday morning. I took him to the ER at 1 in the morning and he was admitted at 6 for possible meningitis. They have him on antibiotics, pain meds, sleeping pills, and anti-nausea medicine. It has been a scary few days for me. I have tried my best to be strong for him but it's hard at times. I am doing pretty good though. The boys are doing great. We will be getting the test results back tomorrow and will know for sure what needs to be done. Please pray for him and our family. This is a very rough and stressful time!
Friday, November 7, 2008
Link to the website.
http://www.generationsoflight.com/generationsoflight/html/index.html
You can go to their website and check it out!
You can go to their website and check it out!
Purity Balls..crazy!!!
Ryan, Anna and I watched a show on TLC the other night called Purity Balls. It was a short documentary on a prom type ball that fathers take their daughters to so they can sign a purity covenant promising to remain pure until their wedding day. The daughters get all dressed up in fancy dresses, get their hair done, and make a huge show of it. The girls are forced by their parents to sign these covenants.
There was one girl on the show that was interviewed that got pregnant when she was 17 ( i think). She got pregnant the first time she had sex and she was disowned by her parents. She ended up having a miscarriage at the beginning of her pregnancy and her parents were not there to support her. She is now living with her boyfriend and is not accepted by her parents because she had sex the 1 time and got pregnant.
In theory this is not a horrible idea. A covenant can be a reminder to stay pure until marriage, however, a covenant that was signed out of force is not going to do anything. Disowning a child because they made a mistake and got pregnant is not going to make the pregnancy go away. We are supposed to love our children unconditionally. Pregnancy, especially in a teenager, is a very emotional time and calls for a lot of support. More than likely, they are already ashamed and disappointed that it happened. Why make them feel worse?
I have recently heard stories of girls who were afraid to have sex on their wedding night because they were always told that sex was a SIN. That is was BAD. These girls were mentally and physically unable to have sex because of their fears. This was a night that they had waited for for so long and they were unable to enjoy because of fear. I understand we need to teach that sex is a sin OUTSIDE of marriage and that we are too remain pure for our husbands, but simply teaching it is a SIN no matter what is not doing any good. As a church we need to make sure that young girls and boys know that even if they make that mistake they will still be loved and accepted in the church and hopefully in their families.
I could probably go on and on about this because I was so amazed by it but I will end now. The show will air again on November 12 & 13th on TLC. You should check it out.
I would love to hear everyone's thoughts on this!
There was one girl on the show that was interviewed that got pregnant when she was 17 ( i think). She got pregnant the first time she had sex and she was disowned by her parents. She ended up having a miscarriage at the beginning of her pregnancy and her parents were not there to support her. She is now living with her boyfriend and is not accepted by her parents because she had sex the 1 time and got pregnant.
In theory this is not a horrible idea. A covenant can be a reminder to stay pure until marriage, however, a covenant that was signed out of force is not going to do anything. Disowning a child because they made a mistake and got pregnant is not going to make the pregnancy go away. We are supposed to love our children unconditionally. Pregnancy, especially in a teenager, is a very emotional time and calls for a lot of support. More than likely, they are already ashamed and disappointed that it happened. Why make them feel worse?
I have recently heard stories of girls who were afraid to have sex on their wedding night because they were always told that sex was a SIN. That is was BAD. These girls were mentally and physically unable to have sex because of their fears. This was a night that they had waited for for so long and they were unable to enjoy because of fear. I understand we need to teach that sex is a sin OUTSIDE of marriage and that we are too remain pure for our husbands, but simply teaching it is a SIN no matter what is not doing any good. As a church we need to make sure that young girls and boys know that even if they make that mistake they will still be loved and accepted in the church and hopefully in their families.
I could probably go on and on about this because I was so amazed by it but I will end now. The show will air again on November 12 & 13th on TLC. You should check it out.
I would love to hear everyone's thoughts on this!
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
I'm the worst blogger
I really thought that I would be able to keep up with blogging but it has proven to be difficult. I have been very busy. Levi was the ring bearer in Justin and Rachel's wedding over the weekend. Zach and Amber were here for 6 days for the wedding..which I was so happy to see them.
All in all I am just not good at blogging. I will try my best to keep on top of it, but can't guarantee anything!
All in all I am just not good at blogging. I will try my best to keep on top of it, but can't guarantee anything!
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